Everyone Is Excited Travel Is Opening Up—But I’m Feeling Overwhelmed

Everyone Is Excited Travel Is Opening Up—But I’m Feeling Overwhelmed

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Dear Women Who Travel, 

After such a rough and terrifying year, it seems like things are finally starting to return to some kind of normal, and (obviously) everyone around me is so excited by all of it.

But as cities have started to open up and the possibility of planning trips is on the table again, I’m feeling overwhelmed by the idea of actually making plans and going places. I’m fully vaccinated, the CDC says its safe, and it seems like everyone I know has a summer plan but I’m feeling overwhelmed by texts from friends about planning group trips together and questions about my summer. I feel like I need a minute to take everything in. How do I explain that to people? Shouldn’t I want to get back out there? Or, should I just be saying yes to things, and force myself get back out there and adjust in the process? This is what I’ve been wanting for the past year, after all. Help, please!

—Overwhelmed traveler

Dear Overwhelmed Traveler,

I’m with you—we’ve waited so long for the world to open up, to have our shots, and to feel like we can plan trips without the assumption that they’ll be canceled. But I don’t think many of us prepared for how it would feel to see much of the barriers of the past year—the risk of infection, the travel restrictions, the social stigma around travel—finally lifting. There’s also the fact that many parts of the world are still in the thick of dangerous third waves and lockdowns. We’re having to confront a mix of realities at once, and yet there’s an expectation to be nothing but excited about it.

That’s not to say I’m not planning trips (a road trip this month, a few camping and beach weekends during summer) but I can relate to that sense of being overwhelmed—or even, not being quite ready for the return to normality. 

To get some advice for both of us, I reached out to Australia-based therapist Sara Kuburic, the woman behind the @millennial.therapist (and prior sage here on the Women Who Travel advice column), for her words on moving forward in ways that feel good, not forced, based on where each of us is at right now.

To start, Kuburic says to give yourself some credit. “Change, even desired change, can feel overwhelming and challenging,” she acknowledges. “We have all been forced to adjust to the pandemic, and it can be anxiety-inducing to be asked to restructure our lives again.” Just because we wanted this change doesn’t mean it isn’t hard; even though we’re grateful the world is moving in a positive direction, it doesn’t mean it’s going to be seamless. And believe it or not, we were all forced to adapt—and not by choice—to our pandemic reality, and a “return to normal” will require just as must adjustment. 

While being fully vaccinated opens up the world to you, your mind needs time to catch up, she says. “We’ve been prohibited from traveling for over a year now and many have felt a lot of fear surrounding the pandemic—getting the vaccine does not result in an immediate shift in mindset.”

Published at Tue, 15 Jun 2021 21:45:49 +0000